INFLUENCE OF FAMILY MONITORING AND SEXUAL COMMUNICATION TO ADOLESCENT CYBERSEX BEHAVIOR

ABSTRACT


INTRODUCTION
The progress of time is growing rapidly. One of them is the internet, where the internet provides everything we need, ranging from information, entertainment, and various media facilities to communicate. Often the internet is abused by teenagers with a form of cybersex behavior. Cybersex behavior is the activity of viewing pornography, engaging in sex chat, using devices such as web-cams (web cameras/external portable cameras) to engage in sexual activity online and seeking sexual partners online or engaging in 3D sex role play. (Lonyka & Ambarwati, 2021). Cybersex behavior is an activity that increases sexual arousal and is carried out online such as looking for a sex partner, communicating between two people discussing sex and seeking sexual content in the form of photos or audio. (Lonyka & Ambarwati, 2021). In the United States there are many internet users, especially teenagers who engage in cybersex behavior. About 60% of internet users visit sites or websites that are sexual in nature and 87% of students have virtual sex (Hendarto & Ambarini, 2019). According to survey data from the Ministry of Information and Communication (Yunita et al., 2020), ranking of porn site users in Indonesia in 2013 Indonesia was ranked sixth for porn site access, then in 2014 it increased to third place, and in 2015 to second place. Sexual cases involving school-age children continue to increase from year to year Ali & Asrori, (2006). The number of cases increased by 50% from 2014 to 2015. Of these, 10% of cases occurred in schools. In Indonesia, the result was that of the 238 respondents who accessed pornographic or sexual content found, there were around 175 respondents who were in the adolescent age category. (Refwan, 2019). Research in East Java also shows the results of 76.8% of cybersex connoisseurs aged 15-17 years by watching porn on gadgets (Yunita et al., 2020). Based on a preliminary study on February 2022 at SMA Antartika 2 Sidoarjo, researchers conducted interviews with 10 class XI students and found that 100% of students said they had accessed pornographic films out of curiosity and then they searched for pornographic films on the internet. The cause of cybersex behavior is due to the low level of knowledge about reproductive health and the high behavior of premarital sex (Marchianti et al., 2017). Factors that cause cybersex behavior are because parents are not open enough to talk about sex with adolescents, there is parental prejudice against adolescents and internal and external problems do not really affect adolescent monitoring (Novitaningrum, 2020). Excessive Cybersex behavior can lead to problematic Cybersex behavior such as premarital sex. Problematic cybersex is generally defined as excessive and uncontrolled involvement in online sexual activity which is characterized by several symptoms such as a persistent desire to behave Cybersex (Wery, 2015). Cybersex behavior is the lack of parental supervision in supervising adolescent activities so that they run well and are not misdirected. The importance of the role of parents is needed for adolescents by limiting youth activities to positive activities, parents must also know with whom teenagers associate and establish good and positive communication between parents and adolescents. The role of the teacher is also important in providing guidance and counseling and providing additional activities in positive learning.

RESEARCH METHODS
The design used in this study is a correlation analytic research design with a crosssectional approach. This research was carried out on 02 June -20 June 2022 at SMA Antartika 2 Sidoarjo. The population is students who have and do not know Cybersex Behavior at SMA Antartika 2 Sidoarjo with a total of 169 students. The sample size taken at SMK Antartika 2 Sidoarjo was 121 samples. This sampling technique is probability sampling using simple random sampling. The independent variables in this study were sexual communication and family monitoring at SMK Antartika 2 Sidoarjo.     Total 121 100 Table 4 shows cybersex behavior in students of SMK Antartika 2 Sidoarjo from 121 respondents, most of them did not have a risk of 61.9%, low risk 17.4%, high risk 20.7%.

DISCUSSION
The results showed that the distribution of respondents based on the type of sexual communication in the respondents showed that the majority of parents' sexual communication with adolescents was in the low category of 56.2%, the medium category was 33.1%, the high category was 27.2%. There are several factors that cause this, including the perception of parents that talking about sex is taboo and parents of teenagers showing negative attitudes towards access to cybersex behavior, as well as a lack of parental knowledge (Kartikasari & Setiawati, 2020). The majority of mothers do not provide sexual and reproductive communication to their children, and one of the contributing factors is the low knowledge of parents about cybersex behavior (Nair et al., 2012). There are several factors that trigger low cybersex behavior, namely self-control, where a negative relationship between self-control and adolescent cybersex behavior is acceptable, the higher self-control that adolescents have, the lower cybersex behavior occurs in adolescents who use the internet (Glagah & Yogyakarta, 2014). Selfcontrol is needed when accessing the internet, when a person does not control himself and uses the internet inappropriately it can cause addiction to cybersex behavior (Khairunnisa, 2013).
The results showed that the majority of family monitoring of adolescents was in the low category as much as 39.7%, the medium category was 33.1%, the high category was 27.2%. Family monitoring or parental supervision is how closely parents monitor their teenagers. Low family monitoring, where parents do not monitor and control their children will tend to experience violations, in contrast to parents who control or supervise their children properly (Savira et al., 2017). When teenagers don't get enough self-monitoring from their parents, this can be an opportunity for teenagers to engage in risky behavior. Supervision from parents can form an environment that requires adolescents to obey and minimize risky behavior (Nengsih, 2021). From the statement above, low family monitoring relationships affect the incidence of cybersex behavior, the role of mothers in parenting such as directing adolescent behavior by advising adolescents, involvement of family members, trust and expectations of mothers (mothers believe in activities carried out by children but still feel worried, mothers hope that adolescents do not repeat the act of accessing pornographic content and get better), communication and the quality of the relationship between mothers and adolescents (in communicating adolescents are open but sometimes there are some obstacles). Meanwhile, internal and external problems did not really affect the monitoring of adolescents causing cybersex behavior to be influenced by family monitoring.

CONCLUSIONS
There is a relationship between sexual communication and family monitoring to adolescent cybersex behavior. It is hoped that families will pay more attention to adolescents in monitoring their sexual behavior. In addition, it also implements open communication with adolescents regarding their sexual behavior, so that adolescents avoid cybersex behavior.